New Year, New Habits: 一期一会


It’s the sixth of January, a whole week of the new year has passed and I thought it’d be time for me to talk a bit about my new rules/resolutions for the new year. The coming of a new year always feels like pressure to me. “This year I will…[fill in along the lines of doing something marvellous]” – And this year especially I feel that kind of pressure. Graduation is creeping upon me and I need to make decisions on whether or not I want to do a masters degree, and if not what will I do? Where will I move? Where will I work? What the fuck do I want to do now?

So I decided, just to not delve into those things too deep and not make myself too anxious, I’d just make myself 3 resolutions, rules, new habits: whatever you want to call them. When everything around you is changing, a bit of structure might be just what you need.

#01: Read More
#02: Meal Planning
#03: Take a Break

But then I thought, what the fuck Louise, really? Aren’t you going to really challenge yourself to make more good habits. Before you think I’m going mad, I will explain why I chose these three things, and why I have changed my mind, even just a little bit.

#01: Read More
Putting ‘more’ behind a verb is usually a bit tricky with resolution, but then again: resolutions are pretty tricky. This was on my list of resolutions last year as well. I’ve been working in a bookshop for 2 years, I love the smell of books (cliché I know) and I really enjoy reading, but I just can’t seem to make time to actually sit down and read. Maybe it is because the past two years of my life have been absolutely crazy – and sometimes I feel like I’m slightly going mental. But books bring you to another world, not like any tv show, film or game can do. And I miss reading. I picked a few books for this coming year, and setting myself the challenge to read at least one book a month. Sounds doable right?

#02: Meal Planning
I’ve never been any good at this ever since I started living on my own almost five years ago. Don’t get me wrong, I actually do cook. But sometimes I’m kind of a mess when it comes to actually plan my meals for the week. To be honest, I can’t really remember the thing I eat for dinner in a regular week. I want to try more stuff, be more organised. And also become more healthy (I mean, classic resolution right?). I think putting in meal planning in my weekly routine is a good thing. Maybe try at least one new recipe every week or every two weeks. And maybe even share a bit more food related content on the blog.

#03: Take a Break
At least once a month, I want to get out and do something. This may sound like I’m a recluse who never leaves the house and does nothing worthwhile in daily life. I just totally don’t mean it like that, just think about it, we tend to get so wrapped up in our daily stuff that sometimes we kind of forget to really live. I know I had a few of those moments in 2014. And I know I don’t want that anymore. So I figured that if I get up and go out at least once a month, I might feel more… I don’t know… alive? – So next week I’ll be going to Copenhagen, and in February there is Paris on the agenda. All of which I will do very low budget of course, because I don’t want to give myself headaches near the end of each month. And it’s not like I have to get out of the country each time, it’s more to actually get out of my daily environment.

You see, all three kind of seemingly innocent resolutions. But after reading this twice, I realised that I made these three resolutions to foundation a better thinking-habit. Take care of myself mentally and physically, will help me organise my thoughts. Or, at least, maybe. It sounded pretty logical to me.

I’ve talked about my overthinking-habit numerous times on this blog. It’s not something I’m proud of, or something I like to keep. Most of the time it just gives me headaches. So my new goal for this year, through the before-mentioned resolutions, would be to learn to live with it. Make it less of an issue. I know I can’t shut it down, but I can learn to cope. A year is a long time. And here’s where I introduce “一期一会” (ichi go ichi e).

The first time I encountered the actual phrase was on the Kishibashi concert (one of the best gigs of my life), last October, a week after I got home from Japan. The first album is called 151e, go figure. It took me more than a year to know, only because my sister told me that night how much she adored the cleverness of that first album (1 is ichi and 5 is go in Japanse). 一期一会 practically means “one time, one meeting”, it is a Japanse proverb and wikipedia explained it very thoroughly for me: it describes a cultural concept of treasuring meetings with people. The term is often translated as “for this time only,” “never again,” or “one chance in a lifetime”. And I really like that. I like the idea of treasuring the moment. I enjoy, especially on a busy day, to stop in the middle of the street and look up into the sky and be grateful. To enjoy good company or good conversation. I want to go and try do more of that. More of that what makes me happy in life. To be more aware of the things that I find that life makes worth living. You could say that, in a way, I’d be challenging myself to be getting a bit more yolo into my life, or que sera sera, or carpe diem. But as every century seems to have have their way of saying these things, I choose 一期一会 for now.

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